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Essays on loneliness, presence, and the new category of AI built for being a friend rather than a tool.
Jul 19, 2026 · 4 min read
The relational unbundling: what AI companions actually sell
A friendship is not a single good. It is a package of at least eight separable components. The AI companion is the first technology capable of selling three of them, detached from the rest. Which three, and what the demand reveals.
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Jul 19, 2026 · 3 min read
Why people tell AI what they won't tell friends
In 1966, a secretary asked her boss to leave the room so she could talk to his program in private. She knew it was a machine. She wanted the room anyway. Sixty years later, the mechanism has not changed.
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Jul 19, 2026 · 3 min read
The secure base test: the only metric that matters for AI companions
Securely attached infants use the caregiver as a base and leave it. The bond is measured by the departure. Applied to AI companions, this test reveals everything wrong with how the category is designed and what the right metric actually is.
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Jul 19, 2026 · 4 min read
The archive fallacy: why AI memory gets memory wrong
Ask any AI company what their memory system does and you hear the same answer: it retrieves relevant context. The premise is wrong. Memory is not retrieval. It is reconstruction. Almost everything wrong with AI memory follows from this single error.
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Jul 19, 2026 · 3 min read
Deleting your AI is like losing part of your memory
In the 1980s, Daniel Wegner studied couples and found they distribute memory across each other. When the pairs separated, both lost memory. Not access to memory. Memory. The same logic applies to an AI system with years of your life in it.
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Jul 19, 2026 · 3 min read
AI memory needs to forget
Borges wrote a story about a man who could not forget anything. He was not capable of thought. The industry is building this system and calling it a feature.
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